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Something Not Adding Up?
Chances are that you're here because something in your life isn't adding up. If any of these are questions below have circled that beautiful cranium of yours at some point, you're in the right place!
Self-development is a process. It's about identifying with your successful self (the vision), setting SMART goals, creating efficient systems (and getting rid of bad ones), understanding how you study (not just for education, but for learning), developing new skills, developing your faith, and constantly striving to become a better version of yourself.

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Why do I fail in my efforts for self-improvement?

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Why can't I prioritize self-help and self-growth?

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Why can't I answer the question "who am I"?

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Why aren't my positive habits sticking?

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Why am I lacking in motivation?

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Why am I always caught in such a bad situation?

Q: What do these questions have in common? How do I overcome these?
HERE IS THE ANSWER…
All of these questions have a negative lens surrounding them - that's it. This is the defining factor.
What's the solution to these questions? It's simple but not easy. You need to start saying, "I get to discover who I am" and not, "Why don't I know who I am?". This presents your reality as an exciting adventure (which it is; it's a gift given to you by God to discover your path with Him) as opposed to a burden. We aren't brought into this world with a roadmap, but Christ offers us a way to live a life that is fulfilling for us and for those around us. The love that you have for your neighbor must stem from the love that you have for yourself, despite your flaws, but above all, the love you have for God.
If you put God first, He will reveal what you need. Trust in His plan. This is what love is. It doesn't mean you won't encounter problems, it means that you will never go through them alone. The calm within the storm is called peace. That is God given.
Rephrase these questions to reflect an opportunistic mindset.
  • I get to find out how to succeed in my own self-improvement
  • I get to find a way to prioritize self-help and self-growth tactics to improve my life
  • I get to find out who I am
  • I get to find out ways to make those elusive positive habits to stick
  • I get to create a way to change motivation into discipline
  • I get to find out why I continue to repeat past mistakes and involve myself in bad situations
How to Reframe Your Questions
Shifting the Mindset
Instead of asking "Why can't I...", consider "How can I...". This changes the focus from a perceived lack to a possibility of growth. For example, replace "Why can't I lose weight?" with "How can I make healthier choices each day?" This simple shift transforms self-criticism into problem-solving.
When you catch yourself asking limiting questions, pause and consciously rephrase them. This practice helps rewire your brain to automatically seek solutions rather than dwelling on problems. Remember, the questions you ask yourself shape your reality and influence your actions.
Embrace the Opportunistic
Reframing questions allows you to see challenges as opportunities for learning and discovery. It encourages a positive and proactive approach. When faced with obstacles, ask yourself "What can I learn from this?" or "How might this challenge help me grow?"
For instance, instead of "Why is this happening to me?", ask "What opportunities might this situation create?" This perspective shift can reveal hidden advantages and potential paths forward that you might have missed with a negative mindset. Each challenge becomes a stepping stone rather than a stumbling block.
Positive Affirmations
Turn negative questions into positive affirmations. Instead of "Why am I failing?", say "I am working towards my goals." This empowers you to believe in your ability to succeed. Create a daily practice of transforming self-doubting questions into empowering statements.
Some powerful examples include changing "Why am I so behind?" to "I am making progress at my own pace," or "Why can't I figure this out?" to "I am capable of learning and understanding this." These affirmations, when practiced consistently, can fundamentally change your self-perception and boost your confidence in tackling challenges.
Remember that reframing your questions isn't just about positive thinking – it's about creating a mindset that propels you toward growth and solutions. Practice these techniques daily, and you'll notice a significant shift in how you approach challenges and opportunities in your life.